Nice cleaner said hello and welcome to another exciting edition of ask an Aquarius if you haven’t already please hit the red subscribe button and smack the bell now today I wanted to talk to you guys about relationships now a lot of times I speak about relationships because most of my clients that come to me asked about love that.
Is the I mean out of all the readings of then I’ve.
Done thousands of readings and out of all the readings I’ve done for the entire years that I’ve.
Day one the most important questions have been love and money everybody wants to know about love and money so I have been privy to so many conversations about relationships that is crazy people often ask me you know like how do I feel qualified to talk about relationships even though I’m never in one and that’s why because I’ve listened to thousands of different scenarios and helped countless people figure out what was going on.
And how to fix it and that’s one of the reasons while I’m not in a relationship because I see all that it takes and I really don’t think I’m built like I don’t really think I got it in.
Me right this second but I’m working towards it so anyway I wanted to talk about relationships because the other day I got a call from a friend and my friend is a Scorpio and she’s in a relationship.
With a Taurus and she told me that they broke up now they’ve been married for like 12 years and she told me that they broke up and she moved out.
And so I said well is it over over you know or is it just a little you know separation and she said I’m not really sure and I said well why don’t you guys go to couples therapy if.
There’s still a possibility that is not over and he’s not a bad guy she’s not a bad girl they’re just incompatible according to go for them so my thing is is that why don’t you guys go to couples to counseling so she said that she discussed it with him and he doesn’t want to.
Break up but he doesn’t want to go to couples counseling because he feels like he doesn’t have any issues that all of the issues are hers and I was like there’s two really big mistakes with that thought process first of all if you’re in a relationship and your relationship is not going the way that you want it to go you have two options fix the relationship or move on with your life and it seems to me like people a lot.
Of people especially men women.
But I’ve seen a lot of men they want to keep the relationship but don’t want to.
Work on their relationship so it’s just further and further deteriorates until there’s no longer a relationship or both people just kind of decide to put up with each other to settle for each other because they don’t want to have to find somebody else so they live out the rest of their days miserable.
With this person who they just can’t work things out with so.
I know that a lot of people are in that situation so I wanted to talk about this today and tell you that that is ridiculous it is ridiculous to stay in a relationship that you’re not happy in it.
Is ridiculous to stay with a person and.
Not work on making things better if you’ve identified that there is a problem it’s ridiculous so I wanted to encourage you guys if you’re with a person if you’re.
In love with a person if you’re in a relationship with a person both of.
You need to work on the relationship and if it means talking to a third party or doing something along those lines go ahead and do it because it looks like to me this couples going to lose each other and they’re gonna lose.
Each other because of the fact that he’s unwilling to work.
On a relationship because let’s say for less than for a millisecond that the problems are all hers he’s still not dealing with them addressing them and responding to them right so even if it is all her he needs to get some help to see how to deal with her how can you lovingly be in this relationship even.
If it is her and to be honest with you is not all her it’s 5050 so he needs to understand that but you don’t so let’s just start from the part.
That we do understand there’s a problem.
And it needs to be addressed so even if the problem in the relationship is not you you still should go see someone or work on whatever way you want to work on it see someone get a self-help book do something it just seems to me like I said before so many people are just willing to not do anything and they come to.
Me in their miserable year after year after year after year and I’m just saying don’t do that to yourself work on the relationship together or move on because of the two of you can’t work.
On a relationship together you don’t have a partnership you have a codependency or a roommate or something along those lines but you don’t.
Have a partnership you don’t have a real relationship you’ll have a real marriage you see so work on it or go about your business why would you hold on to a person that is not working with free yourself and free.
Them to find somebody who will be their partner or for you to find somebody who will be your partner and also if you’re.
Not in a partnership this is a great time to learn how to be a partner and how to choose a good partner for those of us who are single this is the perfect time for.
That and that’s what I’ve been working on myself being a good partner and how do I find or choose or manifest or draw.
To me somebody who’s a good partner those are the questions I myself and.
Meditation so if you’re single that’s where our beginning is that’s.
Where we start our ease but if you’re already in a relationship for any significant amount of time it is not working don’t stay on a sinking ship patch up the holes or get off the ship you see and I think that a lot of.
People don’t out of fear codependency is a big part of this a huge part and for those of you who aren’t sure about codependency google it and read about it because for a lot of people that’s truthfully what it is the bottom line is is that they’re dependent on each other not just one person but both of them and because they’re dependent on whatever it is they’re getting from each other they don’t let go even when it’s unhealthy even when it’s dysfunctional even when.
It’s abusive they don’t let go and what do I mean by dependency well for example one partner is usually two different reasons.